From the Indianapolis Star:
MIAMI -- There's a new routine these days whenever Amber Mullaney goes out to eat at a restaurant. While waiting to be seated, she asks her husband to get the phone ready to hand over to their 2-year-old daughter, Tatum.
The phone -- with its ability to stream episodes of "Dora the Explorer" -- is a godsend, Mullaney said.
Attempts at going out without whipping out the gadget have been disastrous, she said. Her curious, independent toddler gets into everything.
"She'll color for a little bit or talk with us for a little bit, but it's short-lived," Mullaney said. "It's miserable because all she wants to do is get out."
With the iPhone, however, Tatum sits quietly in the booth while her parents get to enjoy a meal.
Mullaney, a marketing manager for a technology company, sometimes wishes they could do without the phone because she doesn't want people to think they're using technology to shut their child up, but she also doesn't want to give up going out.
"Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do," she said.
Mullaney is in good company. About 40 percent of 2- to 4-year-olds (and 10 percent of kids younger than that) have used a smartphone, tablet or video iPod, according to a new study by the nonprofit group Common Sense Media. Roughly 1 in 5 parents surveyed said they give their children these devices to keep them occupied while running errands.
There are thousands of apps targeted specifically to babies and toddlers -- interactive games that name body parts, for example, or sing nursery rhymes.
It has become commonplace to see little ones flicking through photos on their parents' phones during church or playing games on a tablet during a bus, train or plane ride. Parents of newborns rave about an app that plays white noise, a womb-like whoosh that lulls screaming babies to sleep.
In fact, toymaker Fisher Price has just released a new hard case for the iPhone and iPod touch, framed by a colorful rattle, which allows babies to play while promising protection from "dribbles, drool and unwanted call-making."
Denise Thevenot acknowledges that some people would look askance at the idea of giving a child a $600 device to play with -- she had the same concerns initially. Then she discovered the sheer potential.
"The iPad is movies, books and games all wrapped in one nice package," said Thevenot, who works in the New Orleans tourism industry. The iPad, she said, keeps her 3-year-old son Frankie busy for hours. And, when needed, taking it away "is the greatest punishment."
Kaamna Bhojwani-Dhawan is an unapologetic proponent of the trend.
"If you're raising children, you've got to raise them with the times," said Bhojwani-Dhawan, who lives in Silicon Valley and founded the family travel website Momaboard.com. "If adults are going all digital, how can we expect children to be left behind?"
Her 21/2-year-old, Karam, loves the Goodie Words app, which explains complex concepts such as "shadow" and "electricity." Other favorites are a memory matching game with farm animals and a drawing program.
Bhojwani-Dhawan points out that Karam also has books, crayons and Legos. "It's not replacing any of these things; it's one more thing he's getting exposed to," she said.
Experts say balance is key.
"It's really important that children have a variety of tools to learn from. Technology gadgets can be one of those tools, but they shouldn't dominate, especially when we're talking about very young children," said Cheryl Rode, a clinical psychologist at the San Diego Center for Children, a nonprofit that provides mental health services.
"If kids are isolating themselves or if it's narrowing their range of interest in things -- everything else is boring -- those are big red flags," Rode said.
Wake Forest University psychology professor Deborah Best, who specializes in early childhood, said children can benefit from programs that are age-appropriate and designed for learning.
But "interacting with devices certainly does not replace one-on-one, face-to-face interaction between children and parents, or children and peers," Best said. Those interactions, she said, help children learn such skills as reading emotions from facial expressions and taking turns in conversations.
Joan McCoy, a bookstore owner and grandmother of five in Seattle, worries that this new generation will lack some of those social skills.
When her son and daughter-in-law get together with other parents and their kids, they give the children mobile phones to play with, or the children bring along toy computers. "There is absolutely no conversation among them or with their parents. They are glued to the machine," McCoy said.
Eileen Wolter, a writer in New Jersey, readily admits to taking the easier path with her 3- and 6-year-old sons: "I'm buying my kids' silence with an expensive toy."
When her in-laws get together for a family meal, iPhones get passed to five children. The adults talk while the kids play, their contribution to the discussion typically limited to announcing they have cleared another level on a game. When that happens, Wolter thinks, "Eek!"
But then she says to herself, "Yeah, but we had a nice dinner."
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